“It’s hard to dance with the devil on your back. So shake him off.”
Florence + The Machine
Pretty simple right.
I like to dance so I have this vision of being in what I call the “dance zone”, and having this nasty little gremlin on my back grabbing at my arms, tripping me up (which I have a hard enough time as is), and maybe even throwing a reach around fish hook or rear naked choke as I’m on the dance floor trying to do my thing. Sounds like a real cramp in my style, not to mention extremely embarrassing!
But if we think about, we live like this on a daily basis. We let the enemy just climb right up on our back, and whisper in our ear these little and sometimes huge lies, that cramp our lifestyles. They change the way we function in relationships. They affect every single aspect of our day to day routines. And worst part…we have the complete power to turn around and throw him off our back if we so choose.
What lies do you choose to believe?
I know he hits me with a lot of image and relationship lies. Absolutely always has.
Your legs are too thick. Your butt too big. Your lips too thin. Your forehead is actually a five-head. (LOL I actually think that one’s funny now!) You’re not as good looking as your husband. How did you manage to get him? You’re not a good friend. You don’t cook dinner enough. Etc…etc…etc.
LIES. These are all lies I have believed. Along with plenty of others. I vividly remember after I had my 3rd baby feeling so gross. It was about 3 weeks after I had her and I was in my closet crying that none of my clothes fit and that I had nothing to wear and that I was fat and depressed (this went on most mornings). Dominic came in and finally had enough. He yelled, “Get out of your closet! Seriously, I don’t care if you sit in the living room in sweats. Just get out of here. Satan lives in your closet and he’s tearing you down and ruining every day for you, which then ruins all of our days! So stop being so hard on yourself! You had a baby 3 weeks ago. Give yourself a break!”
What? Give myself a break? What was that? Because last time I checked I had to live a perfect life, in my pre-pregnancy jeans, with my perfect hair and makeup done every morning. I had to have friendships that never had fights. I had to have a marriage that was all rainbows and sunshine, where we have sex at least 5 times a week, and I was always waiting at home with a kiss as soon as he walked through the door. Oh, thats only according to facebook and instagram you tell me? It all makes sense.
I refuse to keep believing the lies the enemy tells me. And it’s not out of selfishness or cenceit that I say, I managed to get and keep my husband, because I now know I’m a wife worth fighting for. I possess the very qualities that he always wanted. I’m witty and funny. And I constantly challenge him to be a better man. I work to make his life easier. And while I’m not going to do it perfectly, I will go down trying! My kids will know that I love them. Even in the times I check out to conserve my sanity. Or on the nights that Dominic puts them to bed because I’m emotionally exhausted. My friendships now thrive because my worth doesn’t lie in proving anything to any of them. My pride is learning to accept their concerns and honesty knowing I’m becoming a stronger woman because they can speak up. And I can put more effort into how they are now that I’m not constantly consumed with the battle going on inside of me.
It’s way easier to see the worth that everyone around you has. I watch friends who haven’t had that switch flipped yet struggle through life decisions because they don’t yet realize the value they hold just in who they are. Some are literally drowning in self doubt and insecurity based on lies. I told my sister in law the other day that I have so many moments where I just want to grab some of them and shake them and yell, “Don’t you see how beautiful you are? Don’t you get how smart and powerful you can be? Don’t you see how much talent you possess? Or what you have to offer your family, your spouse, your friends? Why can’t I be the one who convinces you to see it?”
I can’t save everyone I come in contact with. I can only do what’s in my power. I want that one thing to be to speak truth into their lives about who God made them. That every single person is made perfectly imperfect.
“Where our worth lies, should not be based on a lie.” Says me. Yes, I made that up right now, so write it down and then figure out what lies the enemy tells you on a daily basis that you continue to believe. And then work to fall in love with YOU just as you are.
Then turn on some music and shake the devil off your back!